RED FLAG WE IGNORE UNTIL IS TOO LATE

 

Being in love is indeed a good thing and the feeling is amazing , we all want to be in love

with someone special , someone we feel deep for and we want to have that person to ourselves and the feeling of knowing you have someone that you call your own is out of this world. We want to be loved dearly and have some sense of belonging. In most cases it is not the case it could also be the feeling to feed wanted and needed and the freeness to be dependent on someone , but what happens when the person we love and admire is just something that is not what you need or want but you wish they were.?

In most cases we find many people in toxic relationships or in relationships with people normal people can consider narcissist . let us now dive into the red flags that we see and ignore people of the strong feelings and love we have for our significant other.

1. Disrespects strangers: this is a red flag that you may ignore but it is crucial to pay attention to how your

partner treats strangers , on the road, taxi or in restaurants , if he treats strangers as nothing be rest assured he is not the type of a person you  will like to be with in a long run.

2. Does not listen: pay attention if he listens to understand or only to responds and does not take your own explanations serious and always has only what to say , jumps from the main topic to another that has nothing  to do with the main topic,

3.He is always right , it is other peoples fault 

In all his relationships he was always the best and on the right , it was always his exes that fucked and he tried their best bla bla rubbish, they can never accept his faults he can never look at his own actions and see where he has done wrong they is so ok with who they is and  how he is and not ok about how others are . they tell all about them , their past, present and future plans and they never pay attention about anything you have to say or your past if they eventually pay attention they are only there to pick the negative in order  to use that against you one day and label you.

4.Put you down: They try so hard to put you down , by comparing you with their ex, always ready to show you their exes pictures and tell stories of their exes that you did not ask for, they always gonna do that so that you can subconsciously feel that they are the best and feel some sort of not worthy of them, once you praise the picture to them you are automatically worthless and they will just take you for granted and if you do not they will consider you jealous and they will keep showing you more pictures every time they get the opportunity and if you try do same they feel offended.

5.He is aggressive: well this one is tough because they know how to apologize , these people   are ever aggressive they do not know when to control or how to control their emotions, they get made at a slitest not just with you with everybody in public they have low self esteem they use anger to resolve little issues.

6. They control you: They will claim that they want everything in an open ,phone and ext but they are just monitoring you because , they can take your phone and scroll everywhere but when you want to do same believe me it will not be easy they will be controlling you when you are controlling  their phone because such people act innocent and faithful when in reality they are nothing like that , they are just bad.

7. Can not maintain a long term relationship: Most have not even been in a good healthy relationship for at least 2 years , they can not be in an exclusive relationship , because they are toxic some people may manage them for so long and get tired, they are in relationships and not happy that they are , they are just there .

8. They claim they regret loving or knowing you: have you been with someone who hates you while dating you? these types they hate you and hate the fact that they fell for you and wish they can separate because what they need is not in you or the love they have for you they feel is not reciprocated even when you know fully well that you are doing your best , the reason for this is that themselves do not know what they want in life they are confused they keep searching for nothing , even if you ask them what they want they will say the want this that but if you check that is exactly what you are giving them , most wont even tell you what they want because they actually do not know. they just either want a toy , a punching bag, a person to use or just confused.

9.They have female or male friends: get me right there is nothing wrong when one had opposite genders as friends but we all know what I mean , I mean when their conversation is not clear and the opposite does not know whether they are in a relationship and your significant other is not open to their so called friends about their personal lives or even introduce you to them., he is actually keeping them so that when you guys do not work he can go to them for a relationship.

!0. They calculate what they do for you: when they know what they do for you and always use brains on 50/50 know that you are in trouble, they act smart to you because they feel you do not deserve a good treatment, nothing is wrong with splitting bill but it is not ideal to have that issue even in the middle of your relationship when you both should know each other.

these are the red flag that you may ignore thinking is a normal way of having a relationship but I assure you , there will be regret at the end because you can manage this to a certain point. as these flags  will turn out to be toxicating.