Disadvantages of dating a man that lives with his ex

 In life, we wanna fall in love and b with the people we love but most of the time the people we hope could love us do not, instead they use us and leave us frustrated. You can imagine why women these days settle for less, some women have decided to tolerate, being second class in a man`s life. women these days just to be in a relationship do not mind anymore, they do not mind whether the man is married, going through a divorce, or is complicated and has a lot of buggages. the reason being women wanna be with someone even if it means someone else`s husband or just a man that lives or claims to be separated and lives with his significant other. most women are traumatized because of this, so today I will talk about the disadvantage of dating a man that still lives with his ex, whether? and can he date you if you were in a similar situation?

HERE ARE THE DISADVANTAGES OF DATING A MAN THAT LIVES WITH HIS EX

1.You will always be second: what I mean by this is that he will always put his wife and kids before you, whether they are on good terms or not he will always consider his ex-family than you and he can disappoint you at any given time just to attend to his ex`s needs as they are still living together, he will spend time with her more and has to head back to her as soon as he is done with you.

2. You will be a secret

you will always be a secret, it is you that will be told to shush if she calls and you will be there when he talks to her about the kids and other things concerning the family and you will have to shut up and just be there, he will never jeopardize her knowing about you. He will tell you most things about her and he will say nothing about you to her and you are obligated to listen, He will either praise or scorn her but you will be there to hear all of that, while he will say 0 about you. He won't even answer your call in front of her, he won't even call you if she is there, you will be told when to call and when not to. He will tell you that he is respecting her but the question is who is respecting you?

3. You will always be anxious

You will suffer anxiety because you will always be thinking about whether he is telling you the truth or not, if he is still sleeping with her or if he will after using your makeup with her and go back to her based on the fact that maybe or maybe not they have kids and the years they have been together, you will always feel bad about yourself and you will always be sad and thinking how you can leave him and move on and then again how you can find out the real truth, you will feel so anxious about him and her and your future, you will always have doubts about the whole thing, if you call and he does not answer anxiety will fly over, if you text and he takes ages to answer, in short, you won't even be in control of the relationship.

4.You will always be lonely

Yes you have him, but actually, you do not, you will always be lonely the benefits of being in a normal relationship you won't have, at night when you feel like talking to him he won't be available when you supposed to visit him every weekend you won't be able to, you won't actually have any benefits you will always be lonely and be with him once in a while and once he is gone, the loneliness will start again. you will never have the privilege to chat with him anytime you want, play your role as a serious girlfriend , because you are actually not, he will get all the benefits but you will get none. he will put you in a girlfriend status but you won't have that status. when he is with his ex and family you will be alone and lonely. when he is chatting with her you won't have anyone.

5. YOU WILL MISS OUT ON REAL LOVE

It is better you be alone than be with someone and yet feel lonely being with a man that is living with his ex actually is wrong for your soul. this will make you miss out on having real love or finding someone that really cares about you and that is ready to love and cherish you and you will miss out on having the real girlfriend benefits and the right to have a man of your own. It would be better to waste your time looking for your own man than a man that has someone and unsorted life.

instead of degrading yourself with a man who isn't sorted love for a worthy relationship 

6. You will be only used for sex

He will mostly come to you for sex, all the time that he will spend with you will always involve sex because he already has a woman that he calls ex, that maybe they are not having sex, so he will use you for what he can not get from her, in short, you are the destruction, whether sexually or emotionally. Because if he is not using you sexually why does he not just date you and keep sex aside until he knows what he is doing?  why can't he be single until he is free and sorted? he can not be because he needs what he can not get from his wife from you.

& 7. You will never know your stand

you will always be wondering where you are going, cause he won't even want you to date or see other guys yet you do not know where you are going with him or where he is going with his ex. You do not know whether after using you sexually and emotionally h may make up with her and leave you behind to be with his family, besides he is not losing anything. he may tell you how much he loves you but minds you men are good in saying what you would love to hear.

The best thing to do is to leave this man and move on with your life allowing him to sort himself out and do not feel bad like you are leaving him to sort himself by himself because you were not the one that introduced him to this ex-wife and you were not there when they started trying not to be there when they end , if he loves you he will sort his issues out, allowing you to find the love that you deserve it is selfish of him to think that you need to be with him and tolerate all of the shit that comes with his life and hang your life for God knows what and when he will finally move out and start his life without the wife. he may use kids that's just trash a man that wants to move on and out of a woman, life can without having to ruin his kids, a man of integrity won't put another man's daughter in such trauma. If he loves you he will let you live your life and come to you when he is ready to be serious and commit without any baggage, you are not obligated to endure such. as you are single you deserve a single man that you can date and grow together not a restricted relationship where he will only meet you either at your place or hotel, because his house has his ex-wife.