Top 6 things YOU should avoid doing for a man or a foreign man| GUGU ON POINT

THINGS NOT TO DO FOR SOME Foreign  MAN

 Women  tend to want to nurse and pamper our men, which is ok, until when the pampering gets too much and risky or let me say when a man tries or takes advantage of it. Love is Good but as for THOSE who used to be love blind thinking about the future of THEIR partners WITH THEM, leaves them looking like desperate women and ready to do anything. Some men  don't understand a relationship whereby both parties work hand in hand to achieve somethings, Some just believe in taking the full responsibility.Some  men may appreciate the fact that their woman is a hustler and independent  but some won't, they may just use that as a motive to use you and dump you when  you are no more valuable. I might not explain this term accordingly but am sure many get the point.

Women should learn to refrain from being the first ones to fall in love with a man, loving a man first for a woman leads to many heartbreaks and unwanted pregnancies and never a ring.

1. DO NOT COMMIT A CRIME FOR A MAN
Most men use women so much and convinces them to do some illegal business, to make money promising them heaven and earth, some may Go even to an extend of marrying the woman just to get his way! Listen when a man asks you  to indulge in any form of illegal activities, it's a red flag. A man that loves you will never want to risk you; because he loves you and wants to be with you everyday of his life. You are his joy and when he thinks about his joy being taken away he may not bare it,So involving you in risky things is just a never ever to him better.

So don't be fooled when he left his country it wasn't to meet you, whatever that brought him to that country, he should do that without having to involve you, whether is work, to study, to visit or to do other things.
Do not be fooled by all the love making and the attention and think you can risk yourself in order to give  him a bright future. He is a man let him do things himself if he wants you, he will come to you without the intention of playing you, he should be the one to risk it all for you and your future, if he really wants you, he would not want your name to be stained or you to be considered a criminal. Think about how does it  would like sound  being called a criminal wife??? 

Listen no matter how bad a man is he still need a good and innocent wife to raise his kids.

2. Do not waste your youthful years

Do not allow yourself to stay over 5 years without knowing where you are going with a man in your life. Demand clear explanations about his intentions concerning you. why, do this? because he isn't from your land and it's better knowing your stand than wasting your youthful years and end up regretting later. 

3. DO NOT MOVE IN BEFORE MARRIAGE

You have a lot to lose if he eventually disappears, unlike someone that you know well, that you may locate. If he tells you he wants to marry you. It is important to remain with your parents/ Or your own place. Visit him at times, cook, clean, do the laundry, take care of him then go back to your own place until all the marriage rights are finilized.

Allowing  him to think clearly about his intentions and giving him enough time and space  to  work hard and come and marry you when he is ready and with sufficient means to take care of you.
Do not put yourself in a position to stay with him and suffer for nothing and have him leaving you after he makes it to go back to looking for another woman and marry, forgetting whom he suffered with.

Avoid having kids

Avoid just having kids, try prevention until, there's a ring in that finger. It is better to live by instructions than by experience.  Why do you need to avoid having kids is  that, so he won't have anything tying him to you or forcing him to do what he doesn't want and end up regretting or hurting you and the baby, leaving your child to be fatherless, and labeling you as the bad one. There's no rush, do not be fooled or allow that spirit of wanting a child just to keep a man or build a family. Allow yourself time work towards achieving your own goals and let nature take over. It's impossible to keep any man by having a baby for him. A man should love you enough to wanna build a family with you.
It's never too late to make things right.

If you have in any way  you secretly wanted kids you will hurt your baby and it's not your right to choose a terrible life for your child just because of selfish reasons.  When it comes to a foreigner don't even depend on them paying child support Most irresponsible men get away with not paying child support.

 So you will be raising a child and crying after child support while his life continues yours stuck with a bunch of kids and not knowing where to start. Suitors may run away from having anything to do with you and your kids.

Never forsake your family and friends

Some men don't want a woman that has a life of her own because if she does, friends and family will be there to show her where there are faults in her life or relationship, so men prefer to make sure they separate a woman from their loved ones, so that they'll have total control of her and her life.

You will have no independence without him, and that's not right you mist be able to stand on your own and own your life.

NEVER RUSH INTO SEX

SEX IS a good thing and is part of any relationship, but I prefer to say do not rush it, give yourself time to know the person you are with and where you are going of cause not all relationships can lead to marriage but because of the singular reason you should take time to know your partner because if even better you give yourself to someone you thought might had been your husband and it didnt work out than someone you didn't know his intentions, that's being cheap. 

There's no time now to be playing hide and seek for real women who knows that marriage is important should really study wh they are dating before giving themselves to that person, men appreciate hard to get women and they value them than those easy catch who are ready to naked them for whoever at any given time.

Do it because it feels right at that point in time, it's with a man that enjoys your calls, messages, you guys enjoy yourselves, you feel some sense of belonging and be sure you are his number 1, and many other things you may crave from a man, not sleeping with him gives both of you time to know what you want from each other. Avoiding all sorts of heartbreaks and cheating.